Unbecoming

The self-esteem programme for women who've spent years becoming who everyone else needed them to be, and pushed themselves to the bottom of their own priority list.

Unbecoming isn’t about teaching you how to be more confident, more productive, more successful or be able to hold it all better. It is about unbecoming who you always felt you had to be.

On paper things looks fine. You look like you’re coping. You keep the plates spinning. You’re managing all the different emotions and needs in your home, at work and in the relationships that matter the most to you, which at one point felt fulfilling enough.

But underneath it all, you feel like you’re failing, like you’re not good enough, you feel invisible and constantly behind compared to literally everyone else. You’ve got everything you ever wanted, the house the husband, the kids, and yet somehow feel like you’re nowhere near being the women you thought you’d be by now. And the irony is, you’re probably the woman everyone else looks at and thinks has it all together, and admitting you don’t, feels like failure.

You became so good at being everything to everyone, you stopped knowing who you were when people didn’t need you.

And now the kids are growing up and becoming independent, maybe your relationship is over or hanging by a thread, and suddenly you have all this extra space for you, and you’ve no idea what to do with it.

This is the start of Unbecoming.

Unbecoming is where you learn that you are allowed to have needs, boundaries, opinions, feelings and desires, without becoming a bad person, or without people thinking you’re too much. It is where you learn to appreciate yourself, see your own worth and no longer rely on the validation of others in order to feel good enough.

You don’t need to become more, you need to stop believing that who you are already, isn’t enough.

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The Transformation:

Your key problem is that being yourself has historically felt unsafe, selfish, disappointing or unacceptable.

You know you need to put yourself first, but before you can do that, you need to be able to understand…

Why putting yourself first feels so uncomfortable.
Why you feel guilty when you rest.
Why you over-explain everything.
Why you panic when someone seems annoyed with you
Why criticism derails you
Why you can achieve something and still not feel enough

Unbecoming is changing the lens on your life from…

What will everyone think of me > What do I actually think?
Saying yes to everything > Having the space to choose and the confidence to say no
Needing reassurance > Trusting yourself
Taking everything personally > Knowing what is yours to hold and what’s a reflection of other people
Constant comparison > Feeling secure in your own life
Earning worth through productivity > Knowing your worth because of who you are not what you can do

Unbecoming is learning that you won’t become selfish just because you stop people pleasing.

You won’t become difficult or a b*tch, just because you have boundaries

You won’t become loud just because you learn to use your voice

And you won’t stop caring about others so that you can care about yourself

This is a group coaching programme for women who:

Feel like they’re never quite good enough, no matter how much they do or achieve

Struggle with guilt when they put themselves first

Reach for their to-do list before they allow themselves slow down or rest

Feel overlooked, emotionally unseen, or unappreciated by others, and themselves

Constantly question themselves and seek reassurance or validation

Tie their worth to productivity, performance, or keeping everyone happy

Have lost confidence in themselves somewhere along the way

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What you’ll experience:

Unbecoming is a 3-month group programme designed to help you rebuild self-worth in the middle of real life, with maximum support and without the need to feel tied to your computer or showing up all the time for sessions:

You’ll receive:

Monthly Wellbeing Check-In: A journal therapy-based check-in to help you track where you are emotionally and identify what you need support with as you move through the programme.
Online Programme Portal: Log into your online portal and learn module by module, all you need to know to build healthy self esteem
Optional Telegram Support: For the VIP members only, you get access to the online programme to study at your own pace, and 1-1 telegram support Tuesday-Thursday each week to talk about your insights, observation, sticking points and wins, for a more tailored and personalised experience.

Modules in the Portal:

Identifying self-esteem patterns & ways to break the cycle
Fear and identity Mapping
How to de-catastrophise failure
Self-worth behavioural challenges & how to overcome them
Inner critic, self-talk and the relationship with yourself
Boundaries, needs and resentment
How to re-centre yourself in your life
Values & Identity
Self-Advocacy
Future self-mapping

As founding members of Unbecoming you are not just joining a programme, you are helping shape its future. So you'll have a unique opportunity to influence the content, resources, coaching and the overall experience as we go. I'll be actively listening to your feedback, ideas, wins and challenges, so together we can create something that genuinely gives women what they need most.